Forgiveness is a divine power, something that ordinary humans are not entitled to have. And, those who have this quality are more than 'a human'. One, who is free from materialistic desire and, most importantly, the ego, is blessed with such divine power.
Whether it is of physical or mental strength, weak cannot forgive others. Forgiveness is always an attribute of strong people. It is a trait of a mature person having deep inner control over his mind. This strength cannot be bought, it has to be earned. But, how would you earn that? I think spirituality may be the answer.
There are multiple benefits of forgiveness. It directly influences our thinking process. It sets you free from the negativity building around and boosts positive personality. It saves energy which can be redirected to do productive things. It is also the key to longevity and good health.
But, how will you forgive someone who is not even sorry for their action? How will you respond to evil with kindness and hatred with affection? Is that practically possible?
It's definitely not easy, almost impossible, in modern times. We are self-righteous people and often make it an honour issue. We are driven by anger, envy and hatred. Love, compassion, and forgiveness come later. I think the fault lies in our lifestyle and effect of our surroundings. But, overcoming all odds, some manage to do so. They are certainly not weak person as they are often described as.
It requires just a sound mind to feel sorry, some guts, to say sorry. But, to forgive someone, who had done something bad to you, you need deep inner strength and a remarkable mental stability.
But, if you keep getting bothered about something that has happened in the past, you can never come out of it. And, holding a grudge inside you doesn't make you strong, but it only makes you bitter. That is why it is said that we should not forgive a person because he is innocent, we should forgive for the sake of our own ‘peace of mind’.
I think everyone is born with this quality but with each passing day, we gain ego and which is why forgiveness starts fading away from our character. If the world is to be looked from a child's perspective, one can forgive others very easily. Children do not learn to forgive. They naturally have this quality, that's why, one day we see a spat between two kids, but the next day, they forgive and forget every bitter memory, and become friends again. Sometimes children teach us some great lessons about life. But, as they grow up, they begin to develop the ego, which makes them, what I described earlier, 'an ordinary human'.
For those who are always in the fighting mode, having a perception that they are invincible, forgiveness can be a powerful weapon against them or may be the only means to deal with them. It irks them to be forgiven so easily. They want you to engage in an argument and show their talent.
When Mahatma said, An eye for an eye can make the world blind, he teaches the importance of forgiveness in our life. To maintain the continuity of human species, someone somewhere has to take a step forward towards forgiveness, and it may sound like losing a battle but it is because of them, we exist!
You know, because of our default human behaviour, how things sometimes get out of our control and, in the middle of an argument, we say rude things to others, sometimes to the person we love the most. In that case, forgiveness becomes inevitable to heal the relationship.
What is forgiveness to you? Have you ever forgiven anyone? If you do, what change(s) did you observe in that person's attitude? You can give your answer below in the comment box.
Whether it is of physical or mental strength, weak cannot forgive others. Forgiveness is always an attribute of strong people. It is a trait of a mature person having deep inner control over his mind. This strength cannot be bought, it has to be earned. But, how would you earn that? I think spirituality may be the answer.
There are multiple benefits of forgiveness. It directly influences our thinking process. It sets you free from the negativity building around and boosts positive personality. It saves energy which can be redirected to do productive things. It is also the key to longevity and good health.
But, how will you forgive someone who is not even sorry for their action? How will you respond to evil with kindness and hatred with affection? Is that practically possible?
It's definitely not easy, almost impossible, in modern times. We are self-righteous people and often make it an honour issue. We are driven by anger, envy and hatred. Love, compassion, and forgiveness come later. I think the fault lies in our lifestyle and effect of our surroundings. But, overcoming all odds, some manage to do so. They are certainly not weak person as they are often described as.
It requires just a sound mind to feel sorry, some guts, to say sorry. But, to forgive someone, who had done something bad to you, you need deep inner strength and a remarkable mental stability.
But, if you keep getting bothered about something that has happened in the past, you can never come out of it. And, holding a grudge inside you doesn't make you strong, but it only makes you bitter. That is why it is said that we should not forgive a person because he is innocent, we should forgive for the sake of our own ‘peace of mind’.
I think everyone is born with this quality but with each passing day, we gain ego and which is why forgiveness starts fading away from our character. If the world is to be looked from a child's perspective, one can forgive others very easily. Children do not learn to forgive. They naturally have this quality, that's why, one day we see a spat between two kids, but the next day, they forgive and forget every bitter memory, and become friends again. Sometimes children teach us some great lessons about life. But, as they grow up, they begin to develop the ego, which makes them, what I described earlier, 'an ordinary human'.
For those who are always in the fighting mode, having a perception that they are invincible, forgiveness can be a powerful weapon against them or may be the only means to deal with them. It irks them to be forgiven so easily. They want you to engage in an argument and show their talent.
When Mahatma said, An eye for an eye can make the world blind, he teaches the importance of forgiveness in our life. To maintain the continuity of human species, someone somewhere has to take a step forward towards forgiveness, and it may sound like losing a battle but it is because of them, we exist!
You know, because of our default human behaviour, how things sometimes get out of our control and, in the middle of an argument, we say rude things to others, sometimes to the person we love the most. In that case, forgiveness becomes inevitable to heal the relationship.
What is forgiveness to you? Have you ever forgiven anyone? If you do, what change(s) did you observe in that person's attitude? You can give your answer below in the comment box.
Many of our hurts are unintentional. Once we understand the actual intention of another forgiveness comes easy
ReplyDeleteYeah! But, even those which are intentional, one should forgive them and let go of the past hurts. It is difficult, but they cannot allow it to dictate the rest of their life. There is a lot of other things to do in life than to live in disgust.
DeleteVery exhaustively dealt with Amitesh.
ReplyDeleteYou said it right.... We have to forgive for our own piece of mind. It ain't easy at all, especially if it involves not petty hurts but grave abuse. But it is always something that liberates you from hatred and prejudices.
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